Stop Doing Good For Others

Stop Doing Good For Others

An interesting theme I’ve seen in therapy this week is the pattern of “doing good for others” at one’s own expense.   We all do it from time to time, but many people do it all the time! It goes a bit like: “I have to go to the party because if I...
Why Self Esteem is BAD for Confidence

Why Self Esteem is BAD for Confidence

Too many people are using the terms self esteem and self confidence interchangeably and it just has to stop! Not because I’m a nitpicker, but because using self esteem to fuel confidence is beyond dodgy, it’s downright dangerous! First let’s look at why they are...
Defining Confidence

Defining Confidence

How do you define self confidence? Is it a feeling you have sometimes (or wish you had)? How do you know when you are confident and when you aren’t? Defining self confidence is a complex thing, because well, confidence is a complex thing. We tend to simplify it into...