Stop Doing Good For Others

Stop Doing Good For Others

An interesting theme I’ve seen in therapy this week is the pattern of “doing good for others” at one’s own expense.   We all do it from time to time, but many people do it all the time! It goes a bit like: “I have to go to the party because if I...
Defining Confidence

Defining Confidence

How do you define self confidence? Is it a feeling you have sometimes (or wish you had)? How do you know when you are confident and when you aren’t? Defining self confidence is a complex thing, because well, confidence is a complex thing. We tend to simplify it into...
Power Spotting

Power Spotting

Not many people like to admit that sometimes, in some situations, they may be a teeny bit powerful. Power’s got a bad rap in our culture, we equate being powerful with being a monster so we shrink away from the concept completely. But this aversion does no one any...
Personal Power – A One Page Guide

Personal Power – A One Page Guide

Personal Power would have to be one of my most favourite topics; it’s complex, nuanced, and paradoxical; and once you see through the lens of power, life is never the same. To celebrate the new edition of my Little Book of Power, I’m sharing a neat...