Killer Critics

Killer Critics

Most of us have mean inner critics that when we dig deep enough, have benevolent functions, good intentions, that kind of thing (check out this article on protective functions of inner critics for more on this). But some people have critics that go beyond mean, and...
Guilt versus Shame

Guilt versus Shame

I learnt a very personal and tragic lesson about guilt and shame over Christmas. I notice it with many of my clients, and in myself sometimes; it’s the tendency to turn guilt into shame. It often happens so quickly we don’t even notice it, and we don’t notice the...